The “wow xkin is so great” posts on the #otherkin and related tags are annoying. And condescending. And just fucking insulting.
I’ve seen more posts and heard more about things like barking, growling, howling, etc. in public.
For me, although I may...
I’ll be honest. I thought a lot, and I mean a lot, about...
trying to find nice things for friends in the otherkin tag is impossible people just want more drama? i want people to talk about...
In the study of Faerie one will undoubtedly come across an epidemic which I have termed tinkerbellitus. This tragic affliction leads the general populace, when asked to envision a faerie, to almost unwaveringly call forth the image of a small winged humanoid of a good but mischievous demeanor which spreads some sort of weird dust after it that somehow makes childeren disobey the basic principle that we today know as gravity. To put it simple… my response to this is WTF?
This tinkerbellitus is not only a highly inaccurate depiction of faerie in general…it isn’t even true to the actual tinker bell of J. M. Barrie’s famous work Peter Pan. To begin with the book is not really a children’s book… it is quite dark. As a character Tinker Bell actually is a tinker, or a mender of tin pots and other such objects… hence her name. As far as personality goes she is a very jealous and vindictive little bugger. She tries to get Wendy murdered more than once.. including getting the lost boys to make a pincushion out of her with arrows and even tries to poison her. Hardly the stereotypical friendly little thing of Disney folklore, no?
This is bad enough, the real problem is when people start applying Disney’s childified concepts to actual fae lore. In actual lore Fae of all kinds, trooping, solitary, seelie, unseelie, or however you wish to break them down are known to at best be fickle in temperament (such as the seelie) or at worse prone to harming humans simply because its good sport (Think of the unseelie in general or more specifically the Sluagh). To offend them was to guarantee death or torment in some manner unless immediate reparations were made..and you were lucky. The names for faerie (such as the fair folk) were used as a means of trying to placate the infamous temperaments of the Faerie through flattery, actually. For this same reason offerings of milk, ale, and other such things were often left for the Faerie.
I am running on and on I suppose.. but in short. people. seriously. Do me two favors. (1#) Go read actual traditional lore.. then (2#) actually go read the proper Peter Pan and use Tinker Bell as she actually exists in the proper literary sense if you insist on using her as a reference point for faerie.
got it? kthxbai. ^^
Hello fellow Kin and Tumblr users!
We are Kat and Emma and we are fairly new to the otherkin community here on Tumblr so we wanted to introduce ourselves.
We are both 16 and identify as: Kat: faerie kin and Emma: dolphin kin.
We would love to talk to you all and get to know some members of this lovely community! Please message us if you have any questions or want to talk.
Thanks, and we hope you have a fantastic day!
Hi Kat and Emma,
First off, welcome to the #otherkin tag on tumblr!
Second, I’m afraid that I have to point out that the image you’re using for your icon is a copyrighted work. It was created by my elven sister, Arhuaine, as a logo for the website Otherkin.net. On Otherkin.net’s main page there is the disclaimer: “In particular the seven pointed star is a copyrighted work which Otherkin.net has permission to use but is owned by the artist. If you want to use it, contact us and we will relay your request to the artist.” Please, respect the intellectual property of artists in our community.
On Wednesday, April 4th I posted that we had reached 34 articles from a starting point of 17 on Monday, April 2nd.
Today I’m happy to announce that we have redoubled that number again, today reaching 69 articles.
As I said in my previous post, many of these articles are quite sparse. There’s a lot of work to be done to flesh them out, and a vast number of articles still to be added. So I’m putting out another request for help. Join us, help us reach our next milestone of 136 articles.
Share with us your websites, forums, chats. Your gathers, minigathers, and meetups. Share with us your knowledge of the community, its terms, and the people who make it up. As I’ve said before: This is our encyclopedia, written for our community by our community and about our community. Let’s make it everything it can be.
If you’d like to help with this project, please join us at http://anotherwiki.dreamhart.org
Including myself, we had 29 people in chat last night over the course of the evening, with a maximum of 15 in channel at any one time. The chat lasted from 7pm EST until about 4am EST when admittedly I fell asleep at my computer. There were still a few folks talking inchannel then, but it petered out fairly quickly.
So far there have been two complaints about the chat not being “safe” from verdepetit and the shatterpoint-system. The former’s issue is with the “toxic” environment created by another member of the channel emoting a punch, while the latter’s issue was that they didn’t feel “safe” bringing up what they wanted to discuss and so didn’t try.
Quite frankly, I’m not out to coddle people. I’m interested in mature, rational discussion with otherkin capable of functioning in the real world. If you’re not capable of dealing with an emoted punch, you’re really too thin-skinned to be on the internet let alone IRC. Quite a few IRC clients have built-in emotes such as /slap which produce output like “*John slaps Jim around a bit with a large trout”. If that’s toxic in your opinion, I can only imagine you’ve never dealt with actual real world violence and can’t tell the difference.
Likewise, if you’re not capable of speaking up on your own and expressing that you’d like to discuss something else, chat rooms probably aren’t the place for you. Because the idea that folks would react like you were screaming “I hate football” at the Superbowl isn’t based on reality. It’s based on your own insecurities and fear. The channel had quite a few people talking about a wide variety of things from Fae to Elenari elves to angels and demons to Shadows to gathers… way more than just one or two people talking about one or two things. If you can’t join in the discussion on your own, without being led by the hand and told how welcome you are and how interested we all are in what you have to say and what a wonderful special snowflake you are, that’s on you.
Otherkin chats (or any otherkin forum really) are not nurseries. They’re not about, as one other person termed it, “cuddlefluff”. They’re not about sheltering you, telling you how amazing you are, or handing out cookies. They’re places for serious discussion. They’re part of a tradition that involves asking hard questions to get at spiritual or psychological truths. They’re part of a wider community that has had lists like TNODungeon and Outlawkin devoted almost exclusively to no-holds-barred flamewars. If you can’t handle a normal discussion that hasn’t even come close to becoming a flamewar, if you need spaces that are so “safe” they’re nothing but cuddles and fluff and rainbows and sparkles, then perhaps you’d do better in the My Little Pony fandom. That’s not what you’ll find on any serious otherkin forum.
For those who aren’t looking for their online spaces to come baby-proofed, and do want serious discussion warts and all, we’ll be having our next chat on Thursday, April 19th at 7pm EST. See you then.