The “wow xkin is so great” posts on the #otherkin and related tags are annoying. And condescending. And just fucking insulting.
I’ve seen more posts and heard more about things like barking, growling, howling, etc. in public.
For me, although I may...
I’ll be honest. I thought a lot, and I mean a lot, about...
trying to find nice things for friends in the otherkin tag is impossible people just want more drama? i want people to talk about...
Just fyi, Sphynxcat has some suggestions for blood substitutes & recipes using beef blood on her site: sphynxcatvp.nocturna.or… so your Anon might find those helpful.
My experience with the sang I donate for, and what I’ve seen of other vamps I know, is that substitutes are good in the short term but not the long term. I actually think there’s some danger of sangs getting too dependent on them, and trying to rely on them rather than seek an actual donor, because it makes the hunger seem less without addressing the underlying need. So I don’t normally recommend substitutes if someone says they’re having trouble finding a donor.
We were friends first, and she needed one so I offered. That’s all there was to it. Frankly, I don’t understand donors who approach it differently - I chose to donate for her because she was my friend, I knew she was legit, she had the training to draw blood safely, and I’d seen her physical symptoms when she didn’t get blood for a while. I wasn’t just looking around for a random vampire to donate to, like a lot of people seem to.
Let’s clear up a few misconceptions about crisis counselors, psychiatrists and psychologists.
Sure there are some who are closed minded jerks, but the law prevents them from committing anyone to involuntary confinement unless they present an immediate threat to themselves or others. If you bluntly tell them that you are suicidal or planning to kill someone else, they can and will commit you because that is the law. If you tell them that you wish you would just disappear or that you hate your ex boyfriend and wish a truck would smash them, they might be suspicious and recommend therapy or medication strongly.
The difference between sanity and insanity, functional or dysfunctional may seem murky, but here is how a woman with a PhD in psychology who worked for the National Institute of Mental health explained it (paraphrased) when I told her I had dreams that came true and saw ghosts.
“Do you expect others to see ghosts? You are aware that culturally you are expected not to mention it to strangers in casual conversation, but that in other cultures it is acceptable to do so, right? Then you are sane, whatever your spiritual beliefs and mystical experiences are. If you told me that there was a giant pink teddybear on the ceiling of your house ordering you to hurt me and expected me to see and interact with it too, then you would be dangerously insane by the legal definition.”
After we talked for a while and she was supportive, fascinated and open minded, I dropped the Otherkin bomb. It was a huge risk and I knew it, but the study I was doing at NIMH on depression in families had always given me great experiences. So I said it. She asked for a definition and clarification of Otherkin and I gave it. She was fascinated, commenting that it seemed that a new subcultural spirituality was evolving under her nose. She wished that she had government funding to interview Otherkin and start a research program to measure WILLING and volunteering Otherkin for mental and physical differences. She mourned when I told her that so many Otherkin feared mental health professionals, and said that those Otherkin who did seek therapy should seek those who worked with alternative lifestyles and open belief systems. She remarked how very alone Otherkin must feel as well.
Sure, some of you will say, she was the exception and not the rule. However a whole school of therapy and psychology exists that believes in helping people understand themselves via reflection and not behavior change. This is the Humanistic therapy model and that and the Jungian therapists are most likely to be open minded towards us.
With this in mind, also remember that a lot of Otherkin have mental health issues. I have fought depression for years till I found the right combo of therapy and medicine that worked. Once I did, I functioned. I still have frustrating days like anyone else, of course, but that’s life. What is gone and good riddance is that terrible bleakness of depression and the sadistic urge to make others around me share my misery by being cruel to them and dragging them down. I have a decent life and accept that therapy and medication are part of maintaining that.
I suspect that for some people out there, they feel that being or suspecting they are mentally ill makes them “Special” due to suffering more than others or having a unique perspective. Maybe they fear that their Otherkin nature will be cured by therapy and that they will no longer be special. That’s a load of crap. My art has gotten better since I went into treatment due to a positive attitude, better concentration, optimism and the ability to look at my work and see and know its worth. If you are Otherkin it is in your soul, not your serotonin and other neurochemicals. Suffering does not make you any better than other people, even if you enter into it for spiritual or political reasons. It just makes your approach different but the approaches of others are still valuable and legitimate. Mental health interventions should make you more of who you are, not less.
As a patient you have the right to terminate a relationship with any doctor at any time unless you are a danger to yourself and others. Even the schitzophrenic patients we see at my doctor’s office still have freedoms. We have a guy who wears jewelry made of copper, plastic and duct tape, sees choirs of angels in his living room, talks to God in public, pees in his sink for fear that the Martians who control the Russian Mafia have placed electrodes in his toilet to corrode his brain through his penis and never bathes. He lives in assisted care but is not dangerous so he can come and go at will. He walks to our office, smells terrible and keeps the appointments necessary to his health. At any time he could fire my doctor as long as he found another one and took care of his health issues.
We all have so much more freedom and in most cases so many less issues than this guy. In most places, there are public mental health clinics, support groups and schools for psychiatry with sliding scale fees. I encourage any Otherkin who suspect that they might have a mental health issue to look into and utilize all the resources at our disposal to improve the public image of Otherkin.
I count vampires as otherkin, but a lot of people… including a large segment of the vampire community… do not. I don’t think the vampire community is very active here on tumblr, your best best would be the various mailing lists, forums, and other groups for vampires if you’re looking to connect with others. I’d highly recommend Sanguinarius.org and SphynxCat’s Real Vampire Support Page as starting points, and they list many others. Sanguinarius.org also hosts an IRC channel on Dalnet (#sanguinarius) and a weekly chat in Second Life on Fridays at their virtual Sanguinarius Community Center.
At 8pm on Monday, I posted an update about AnOtherWiki. I said that we had 17 articles created in addition to the main page at that time, and I asked for help. I said I’d like to see us double and redouble that number. Well, I’m pleased to announce that a mere two days later we have in fact doubled that number to 34.
Now, many of these articles are quite sparse. There’s a lot of work to be done to flesh them out, and a vast number of articles still to be added. So I’m putting out another request for help. Join us, help us reach our next milestone of 68 articles. Share with us your websites, forums, chats. Your gathers, minigathers, and meetups. Share with us your knowledge of the community, its terms, and the people who make it up.
As I’ve said before: This is our encyclopedia, written for our community by our community and about our community. Let’s make it everything it can be. If you’d like to help with this project, please join us at http://anotherwiki.dreamhart.org